It is common for people to want to avoid abusive relationships. However, it can often be difficult to spot an abuser before getting into the relationship because they tend to hide their true nature quite well. Despite that, there are some things that you can do to help protect yourself from getting into such a situation in the first place. It takes observing the person, especially early in the relationship when abusive is less likely to occur.
According to WEAVE, some early signs a partner may be abusive include being overly jealous and wanting to move the relationship very quickly. For example, your partner may want to get serious fast and want to move in before you feel you are ready. You may also notice extreme mood swings. He or she may be happy one moment and incredibly angry the next for no obvious reason. Being overly sensitive is another common sign. It is also common for an abusive person to have very strong ideas about gender roles. For example, if you are a woman, your partner may want you to stop working and stay at home. This may also lead to isolating you from others, including friends and family. You may also realize that he or she never takes blame for his or her own actions or is always blaming others for how he or she acts.
Other signs that are more obvious include throwing objects, breaking objects and threats of violence. Wanting to control every aspect of your life is another sign. He or she may also be mean to animals and children. This information is for education and is not legal advice.